AND REGULATING THE THINGS
The marriage is a special relation between two persons –
of woman and man – and they work together harmoniously it is a
important required qualification.
They work together effectively and enjoys the one other, can
happen when the companions learn they communicate openly also with
care – qualitative communication. This requires effort.
You give and you receive help, you support and you encourage,
corresponding in the challenges and working at the duration of crises,
they are a process that should macey-polytechnic colleges. As
soon as this becomes, it renders capable the pair it works with
harmony and it is developed in in the marriage. This it appears
obvious, but many many times him we consider datum and we neglect to
develop our faculties of communication together.
Who it is therefore good communication, with ‘’hej-ropjastoy's’’
terms? A mele'ti1 in university in the I.P.A., it examined
fo'rmes communication that used happy pairs and him compare with
problematic pairs that asked advices for the marriage. Existed
three characteristics of beneficial communication: you know via
his you hear, speak and discuss, and understand without words.
As him we examine a little more.
1. YOU KNOW VIA HIS YOU HEAR:
The happy pairs worked hardly in they know what he tried
to them says their companion in most subjects. They were ready
to hear carefully the one the other, to hear what really had been said
and anymore feelings were expressed. Dissolution of
communication happens when two persons persist so much in
‘’pera'soyn’’ their own opinions and sentiments, that fail they occupy
the opinion of other. The discussion becomes one way road and
falls on ‘’koyfa' aytja'.’’
The cheerful pairs avoided also
reactions that extracted the attention, as well as provocative
statements. Energies that likely prevent what the other
tries it expresses. Also asks no one djeykrjni'sejs with
regard to the message that tries the other it transports,
it can help the precision of communication. This is often
named `'energi' hearing '. Naturally we can know a individual
only when this is ready us to allow such something. We
can hear only when we express something with a view we
him we hear.
2. SPEAKING AND DISCUSSING
The happy pairs enjoy they are shared their lives. It
is not together from habit or for facility, but really they
enjoy they speak and they discuss between them. But
for anymore things they speak? The pairs in the study
made a list with 8 important subjects:
- They discuss for pleasant or unpleasant things that
happened at the duration of day.
- They discuss for things which them interest.
- They prefer they discuss their personal subjects between
them despite with somebody third person.
- They discuss subjects that concern their marriage
(as well as the children).
- They discuss important individual values and sentiments
without restrictions or embarrassment.
- They discuss the important subjects together front
they take some decision.
- They discuss personal problems and subjects round
which exist certain disagreements.
- They discuss for how their romance ual needs are achieved
in in their marriage.
Analyzing him parapa'nw subjects, were given in the
companions the occasion to remain in contact with the activities,
the interests, the opinions and the sentiments of other. In
this way they became easier comprehends the one the other
and to face better new or difficult situations.
When such something does not happen, the pair can find
itself in sentimental dimension. Will know the one the
other least and with the time apoxenwcoy'n. His habit
to be shared and to discuss the subjects can easily be lost,
for this should constitute priority and become frequent exa'skisi.